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Aletha Huffman's avatar

I’m still grieving the loss of my mom, who I cared for in my home, and died 6 months ago. Before that, my dad died 7 months earlier and I was his caregiver. Both have broken my heart.

I’m now caregiver for my husband who has stage 4 cancer and is declining pretty fast. I wish I could use the things I learned from their passings on this situation but all of the paths have been so different.

I don’t think anyone who hasn’t been a caregiver can possibly understand the journey. Love and pain.

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The Caregiver's avatar

You have described the Caregiving journey in two words--Love & Pain.

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Dr Jane Olivier - MBChB's avatar

Thank you. I needed to read this today.

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The Caregiver's avatar

Thank you for reading A Caregiver's Conscience. I hope it helps.

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The Invisible Caretaker's avatar

Thanks for sharing this. It a hard journey. you’re doing it everyday. Be proud of yourself.

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The Caregiver's avatar

Thank you for the encouragement!

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Kathyrn Merrithew's avatar

Amen to these difficulties! What a ride!

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The Caregiver's avatar

Amen.

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Janise Gates's avatar

You hit home on EVERY point. The brother who’s never around, finding those who truly understand, will life ever become more than the one dimensional existence I am living now…with all the professional Dr.’s and caregivers I have to deal with, WHERE ARE OUR ADVOCATES? Thank you for your thoughts.

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The Caregiver's avatar

Thank you for your comment. I know you clearly understand exactly how I feel. Right down to the brother who's never around!

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Victoria's avatar

I hear you, and many of us are walking alongside you, even when we can't be there in person. Sharing your truths, these words, helps many others who haven't yet formed them.

Every experience is unique. I don't feel the same as you do right now, but I easily relate to your words, because of the previous caregiving rollercoaster we were on, or others I've co-piloted.

You've summarised many thoughts from various carers I've met in the online forums.

You're not alone.

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The Caregiver's avatar

Thank you. Every time someone comments on a post here on SUBSTACK, I am reminded that I am not alone. Thank you.

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