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Jennifer Friebely's avatar

I’m having the same kind of day. You’re not alone. And now I know I’m not alone.

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The Caregiver's avatar

The one thing that totally rings true about Caregiving is that we are not alone--there is always someone who feels the same way you do. Thank you for the validation. Tomorrow is another day.

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Victoria's avatar

I hear you. No one can truly understand a caregiver's situation; each situation is unique, - the relationship with the person they care for, the background of how their caregiving role came about, and their current living situation, and so much more.

I've seen several caregivers not open up or reach out because of all this - isolating themselves further.

Take care hon. xo

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face the winds's avatar

In a neighboring town a caretaker shot her parents after years of caring for them. Police eventually arrested her. I an not sure what happened to her. Unless you walk in someone's shoes you have no idea what who and what they are.

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The Caregiver's avatar

Very true. I have found that people are very quick to make suggestions, comments and deliver advice regarding Caregiving when they have never walked in a Caregiver's shoes. While researching this topic (after hearing this woman's story), I was surprised to see the incredibly high number of these type of cases. That is why I feel that it is critical that as Caregivers we must know, trust and believe that we are not alone. Thank U for reading "A Caregiver's Conscience."

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Judi Bailey, M.Ed's avatar

That “sounds ok” message was meant for someone else. : (

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The Caregiver's avatar

No worries

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Judi Bailey, M.Ed's avatar

I am not a caregiver, my wife is. I have dementia. So far, I really appreciate what she is doing. But what pains me is to see the toll it has on her. Decisions- decisions- decisions. Worrying if I will fall again. Anxiety and depression. We’re real close so she lets me see these things. I wonder what I don’t see.

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The Caregiver's avatar

As a Caregiver, I can honestly say that the fact that your wife does allow you to see what she is feeling and how she is sometimes struggling, is a gift for her. And it lets her know that you truly appreciate her and all that she is doing caring for you. Thank you for sharing your feelings. And as best you can, keep encouraging your wife to share hers. It helps.

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Judi Bailey, M.Ed's avatar

Thanks for your reply. I will.

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Judi Bailey, M.Ed's avatar

Sounds ok.

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